As reality begins to wrap itself snugly around my mind. I joined a WLS (weight loss surgery) group so I can talk with people who have experience what I am going through and tell me the good, the bad and the ugly.
I will admit, I thought I was gansta. I knew in my mind that after the surgery, I was going to be eating smaller portions.
What I didn’t know was that my definition of small and the reality of what small really means where TOTALLY DIFFERENT.
As I scrolled through the messages, people in the group often post pictures of what they have eaten as part of their food diary or to encourage other members or give people ideas….
I, personally, was traumatized!!!!
Let me give you an example.
Caution: The following images are graphic in nature.
Um, Are you about to feed an injured bird? Is that plate for a small toddler?
Er…Is grandma coming over for dinner and that’s HER plate?
Now let me blow your mind, It is going to take me A FULL YEAR to work UP TO being able to eat that much food.
*queues a moment of silence….
???? That much food?!?!?!?
Somebody is OBVIOUSLY CONFUSED!
I mean seriously…When I contemplated small portions, my mind said ok so you will be having one chicken thigh, vegetables etc….
Now the truth has come crashing down….
I was the one who was OBVIOUSLY CONFUSED!
Lawd….what in the world have I gotten myself into?
I just want to be completely honest at this point. My body and fat have a COMPLETE attitude. My body and fat have began to revolt already. I AM SO HUNGRY. Fortunately, I understand that it is head hunger and not real hunger. So I am not moved. My body and fat have said some very inappropriate things to me now that I have a visual of what life is about to be like. Eventually.
This is the beginning of the test. Am I really ready? Am I really ready to put food in it’s appropriate place? Do I really understand that food is a source of nourishment and not a form of entertainment? Or am I all talk?
The Gastric Bypass Surgery is simply a tool. Statistics show that people who do not understand that this is not a diet but instead a lifestyle change will ultimately gain the weight back.
I understand that change starts in the mind. The pictures that I posted are not for you (sorry) they are so that I can wrap my mind around it. They say repetition is the mother of all learning. I know that just as bad habits take time and effort to form so do good ones.
Honestly, talking the talk is one thing. Walking the walk is something completely different. I am determined that my weight is no longer going to control me. Food is no longer going to be the master of my existence. Food is not the enemy. My inappropriate use is the enemy. My overindulgence is the enemy. My stinkin thinkin is the enemy.As I understand that food is not a problem solver or a go to man, I sit on the brink of the real face of change. Everything up to this point has been a mock simulation. Now I get to test my moxie and put my money where my mouth is.
This is still a choice. Do I chose reformation or stay with my addiction? Like any addict standing on the edge of a blade, teter tottering between life and death…I feel the warming comfort of the familiar and I feel the fear of radical change. I see the benefits and liabilities of both. My heart pulses and my blood races as I honestly and objectively consider what is about to happen. This is not a decision to be taken lightly. Anything worth having requires effort. This is the brink of a new chapter in my life. Consistency has always been a problem for me when it comes to matters of importance. It is instinctual for me to run.
That was then and this is now.
Now I must commit. Now I must endure. Now I must succeed. I must regain balance. I must change.
I am not saying good bye to food because I need food in order to survive. I am saying good-bye to my detrimental behaviors. I am saying good-bye to a lifetime of hiding. I am saying good-bye to putting a band-aid on cancer. I am saying good-bye to excuses. I am saying good-bye to counter productive behaviors. I am saying good-bye to being less than I know I can be.
One of my favorite quotes is in order to success, simply act as though it is impossible to fail. Another is Insanity is doing the same thing, expecting different results. Both quotations have never rang truer to me than now.
In the words of Morpheus from the Matrix, “Welcome…to the real world….”